My best friend let me stay with him when I needed a home and then kicked me out
DEAR DEIDRE: MY best friend invited me to move into his place until I found permanent accommodation.
And after falling out with my family, I gladly took up his offer.
I have paid my way and contributed to all the bills.
I thought we were getting on well and there have been no issues or signs that he was unhappy with me living there.
So I was gobsmacked when he sent me a text asking what my arrangements were for the following month – I was only in the next room so why didn’t he talk to me?
I am 32 and my friend is 34. We have been friends for 15 years. I’d only been living with him for two weeks.
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I replied, saying that I’m currently looking for the right place.
He implied that he needed his own space back and would rather I left.
This totally threw me as only a few days earlier he told me how much he was enjoying my company and I could take my time.
He has since avoided being in the house if I’m there.
I am going to move in with my brother for a few days until I find a flat, but my friend doesn’t seem at all bothered.
I’ve received no apology or explanation.
I feel totally blindsided and hurt by this.
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DEIDRE SAYS: I’m sorry you’ve been put in this position. Perhaps he had a change of heart.
Maybe he realised that, in reality, he’s happier with the space to himself.
Whatever the reason, it was clearly not working for him and unless he gives his reasons you may never know.
You could write him a letter explaining how you value his friendship and would rather know if there were any issues between you.
If he doesn’t respond – try to be glad you had a place to go albeit temporarily and focus on the future.
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