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LEFT OUT

I am so upset after ex-workmates met up and did not invite me along

DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN I discovered some ex-workmates have been meeting up without me, I felt so upset.

I’m a 58-year-old single woman.

I saw one former colleague eight months ago and we thought it would be a good idea to arrange a get-together with other ex-workmates.

She said she would look into it but I heard nothing further from her.

Then a few days ago another former colleague from our team messaged me to comment on a photo I posted on social media and asked how I was.

She told me she had seen two other people we used to work with but would love to catch up with me too.

Everyone keeps saying we will have to meet.

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But then I find they organise a gathering and don’t include me.

I am starting to believe there is something wrong.

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DEIDRE SAYS: It’s natural for people to feel left out sometimes and this is something most of us have experienced.

Talk to those colleagues you are closest to.

True friends won’t be influenced by other people’s opinions.

Strengthen your relationships with other friends and socialise with them more.

Join a club, take up a hobby, anything that will help you meet new people.

This will help keep your outlook positive – your colleague contacted you and suggested meeting – rather than negative – no meeting has happened yet.

My pack Widening Your Social Scene has lots of suggestions.

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