I can only last under a minute in bed with girlfriend since our baby was born
DEAR DEIDRE: I COULD last a decent amount of time in bed before our baby was born.
Now it is all over in less than a minute and it is getting me down.
Before my girlfriend and I enjoyed foreplay and sex.
I am 34 and my girlfriend is 32. We have been together for four years and had a baby boy six months ago.
We have adjusted well to our baby’s arrival and things are great between me and my girlfriend, until we have sex.
Admittedly we haven’t had much sex recently as my girlfriend was recovering from the birth, and when we do, I feel like I am failing her.
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It is all over so quickly because I climax almost immediately.
She tells me it doesn’t bother her, but it does me. It worries me I might never feel pleasure in climaxing again.
I’ve tried everything to stop climaxing so quickly, including longer foreplay. I am running out of ideas.
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DEIDRE SAYS: This is one of the most common worries men write to me about but it’s also one of the most easily put right.
The baby likely meant a break from sex, then when you did get going again, sex was less frequent.
Perhaps you hurry in case your baby wakes and ruins the moment.
That alone would be enough to trigger premature ejaculation for lots of men – and now worry is adding to it.
It’s possible to learn techniques so that this problem doesn’t wreck your love life.
My support pack Want To Last Longer explains more.