My abusive ex blames me for our split – maybe she’s right

DEAR DEIDRE: EVEN though I’ve finally broken up with my abusive ex-girlfriend, she still blames me for everything.

She was living with me in my flat and claims I’ve made her homeless because I asked her to leave. But I had no choice.

I’m 37 and she’s 34. We were together for four years until two months ago.

From the moment she moved in, she changed and became verbally abusive.

Nothing I ever did was good enough. She put me down, told me I was rubbish in bed, swore at me and made me believe black was white.

One night we had an enormous fight and she became violent.

I realised I couldn’t carry on. She’s never once taken responsibility for the relationship going wrong.

As far as she’s concerned, she is faultless and I’m the one who caused our split.

Sometimes, I even wonder if it is all my fault. I actually ended up apologising to her.

Despite everything, I still love and miss her. I’ve blocked her but am tempted to get back in touch.