Erection problems are making me feel so low and my life’s effectively over
DEAR DEIDRE: I’VE heard erection issues can affect men at any age but I’m so worried mine means my life is effectively over.
I’m 64 and have the most lovely girlfriend who is 61.
After 30 years of the most unhappy marriage and barely any sex, I’ve finally found happiness.
My girlfriend and I have been together for three years and I cherish her every single day with her.
But since experiencing erections problems, I’ve started to feel so low.
I’ve always kept myself fit and healthy and now that I’ve met someone I really love and want to make love to most days, I find myself physically incapable.
Get in touch with the Dear Deidre team
Every problem gets a personal reply from one of our trained counsellors.
Fill out and submit our easy-to-use and and the Dear Deidre team will get back to you.
You can also send a private message on the Facebook page.
I’m letting her down and worried that I’m already starting to fall apart.
She is so lovely. She always gives me a hug after I’ve failed to rise to the occasion and even tells me she really doesn’t mind.
But I know she really misses being so close.
It might sound melodramatic but I honestly feel like I’m hurtling towards the end.
I’ve been to the doctor and have tried taking Viagra but it makes my head feel awful, so as much as I want to have sex I can’t face the headaches.
How do I get my mojo back and start to feel better in and out of the bedroom?
At the moment I feel as if life is over.
DEIDRE SAYS: It is wonderful that you have found happiness with your girlfriend but try not to let that put pressure on you.
Erectile dysfunction is often resolved by simply just agreeing not to have sex again for a few weeks.
Often the men’s erections will return naturally and with it, their confidence.
This means you can then have sex without worrying about it.
Erectile dysfunction only has to happen once or twice to cause concerns that it is going to happen again next time.
This anxiety makes it even more likely to happen again because the problem makes you worry and that causes the problem.
It is important to see your doctor again to rule out any underlying medical cause.
I’m sending you my support pack Erection Problems, which has plenty more advice.
