I love my partner but I’m addicted to sneaky sex sessions with my gorgeous neighbour
DEAR DEIDRE: MY gorgeous neighbour has been borrowing my laptop – and enjoying naughty sex sessions with me whenever my partner is on a late shift.
Now I’m worrying that I might get caught. I already think other neighbours in our apartment block might suspect we’re having an affair.
We’d always got on and I thought he was really fit, but because I’m in a long-term relationship I’d dismissed any other thoughts about him.
That was until he popped around one afternoon in a panic because his laptop had broken and he had an important work deadline.
He’s 30 and manages a big sales team.
He was so grateful and came back later with a bottle of wine to say thanks.
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It was 10pm and I knew my partner would not be back until after 3am.
So I asked him to stay and share the wine.
It was so good to have some company. We ended up having the craziest sex, right there in the kitchen.
I am 31, my fiancé is 32 and a paramedic.
It’s a good relationship and I love him, but he works shifts and often overnight at the weekend. I frequently feel lonely.
Since then, sex with my neighbour has become regular.
Sometimes we meet in my flat, sometimes in his, just across the hallway.
In fact most of the time, whenever my fiancé works nights, we arrange to get together.
The sex feels amazing, probably partly because we know it’s never going to be anything more.
I know the neighbour just sees this as a bit of fun.
I really love my partner and I don’t want to be caught cheating but I feel addicted.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Yes. It sounds very likely that you will get caught.
It’s really a question of when, and the chances are you will lose your partner as a result.
This has become routine but habits can be broken.
Tell your lover it’s over, then make sure you don’t stay home alone when your fiancé is working. Arrange to go out with friends or family, or explore some new interests.
If you are going to be tempted to stray every time you feel a little lonely, your future relationships will keep following a similar trend, unless you can learn to recognise when you are susceptible and change your routines.
Could you invite family or friends over for an evening when you know you are going to be alone?
You say you love your fiancé, so put more energy into your relationship. You can have mind-blowing sex with him too.
My support packs Torn Between Two Men? and 50 Ways To Improve Your Sex Life will help.
