Even though I’m back with my true love, I’m grieving the life we could have had
DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER over a decade apart, I thought reuniting with the love of my life would make me the happiest girl in the world.
Yet instead, I can’t shake the sadness and grief for the life and children we could once have had.
He’s 42, I’m 39 and we first fell in love 15 years ago. We had a beautiful five-year relationship but it was the classic right person, wrong time.
Deep down we knew we were meant for each other, but life got ahead of us and we settled with other people.
We finally found our way back three months ago when we reconnected online.
It felt like no time had passed and ever since things have been amazing. I can’t imagine my life without him.
The only problem is that we both have children of our own now and I know it shouldn’t upset me, but I’m struggling to come to terms with the time we were apart and will never recover.
I just so wish we had stayed together.
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DEIDRE SAYS: You are only tormenting yourself by thinking about what might have been.
Sometimes it’s all too easy to look back than it is to look forward.
You didn’t stay together for a reason. It may be hard to see that all these years later, but you said it yourself, it was the right person at the wrong time.
As difficult as it may be, try to focus on your future together instead of fixating on the past. You’re together now and that’s really what matters.
