My husband says I’m being unreasonable for not wanting to live at my in-laws – all we do is argue
DEAR DEIDRE: ALTHOUGH my in-laws are great, I hate living in their house.
My partner doesn’t understand and says I am being unreasonable or moody if I say anything.
I am a 34-year-old woman and my partner is 35.
We have been living with his parents for four years because we can’t afford a place of our own.
I’ve been saving hard, but my partner won’t look at houses and neither does he want to move out.
I don’t feel like I’ve ever been relaxed as it’s not really my home. It’s like we’re in a relationship with his mum and dad.
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I know I should be grateful that they have let us live with them, but I want some time for us.
My mother-in-law is quite overbearing and interferes, but according to my partner she can’t do anything wrong.
I spend a lot of time in our bedroom thinking about the future. All we do is argue every day.
DEIDRE SAYS: This is no way to live. Talk to your partner again and tell him you are close to breaking point. Make it clear you can’t carry on much longer.
Tell him how miserable you are, and that your relationship is under strain.
My support pack Standing Up For Yourself should help with this.
He has to know you are beginning to question your future with him and something needs to change.
And start looking for another place. Contact for information on housing issues.
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