I drunkenly lashed out at my partner but I fear he doesn’t want me back

I was nasty – verbally aggressive – and then punched him in a drunken rage.

He calmly got into his car and drove off. Later he texted, saying we were over and for me not to contact him again.

I was mortified but packed a suitcase and left him a note saying how very sorry I was.

I love him but I don’t think he is going to change his mind.

DEIDRE SAYS: There is never an excuse for violence, but alcohol played a major role in this.

It affects the part of our brain that controls our emotions.

This puts us at risk of getting into arguments and becoming aggressive or violent.

You lashed out and scared him. That lack of self-control should be worrying you, too.

For now, get help to understand where your rage comes from.

My support pack on Managing Anger explains self-help and expert treatment.

My support pack Drink Problem provides sources of assistance. Asking for help is a powerful first step towards taking control of your life.

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