I met an escort behind my wife’s back but it turns out she lives nearby
DEAR DEIDRE: I’M worried my neighbour will blow my secret after I booked her through an escort site without realising who she was.
I’ve been using escorts on the quiet for years but I’m convinced I’m about to be rumbled.
My gorgeous wife is 41 and I’m 44.
We have a great marriage and three brilliant kids but our sex life is lacking.
My wife can suffer with pain during sex since the traumatic birth of our third child, so we are rarely intimate these days.
She takes the kids to visit her parents during the holidays some-times, so I take my opportunity and hire an escort.
I take them out for dinner and then, if it works out, it’s sex back at home.
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Last Easter my wife took the kids up to her parents for a few days, so I went on my usual site to book an escort for the Saturday night.
As soon as she walked in the bar I thought she was rather familiar, but couldn’t place her, so assumed it must be from her website photos.
We got on well and she told me she was a single mum of 33.
Later, I drove her back to my place and the sex was great.
I paid her and told her I’d drive her home. She said, “Don’t worry. I’ll walk”.
I asked her where she lived and she said, “Just down the road”.
The penny dropped and I felt a lurch of panic.
Her kids go to the same school as mine. I was gobsmacked. She laughed at my reaction and told me not to worry but it wasn’t very convincing.
I’m worried she’ll tell my wife. The worst thing is, she’s so hot I don’t think I’ll be able to resist going in for round two.
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DEIDRE SAYS: You’ll be a fool if you do.
A lack of sex is no reason to cheat. Your wife deserves better.
If you’re going to hold things together, you’ll have to ensure that extra-marital sex stops.
Your wife must be upset that she’s the one inhibiting your sex life. Can you understand how sad that is?
Avoid this escort or any other sex worker, and start treating sex as something precious between you and your wife. Encourage your wife to talk to her GP about the pain she’s experiencing and ask for a referral to a gynaecologist.
My support pack called Can’t Be Faithful will help too.
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