I can’t have my mum living with me any longer – she’s a hoarder
DEAR DEIDRE: MY mother has moved in with me after Dad passed away but she’s a massive hoarder and her stuff is now spilling all over my house too.
I’m a woman of 46 and Mum is 74. My parents’ house was a tip.
It had been my gran’s house before that and no one had ever cleared out her possessions.
Mum and Dad just added to the mess.
A few years ago I took a load of boxes and furniture to a lock-up to free some space but within a year the house was full to the brim again.
After Dad died, I went to get Mum some clothes and was so shocked to see the state of their bedroom.
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It was full of clothes, shoes, toiletries and newspapers all piled on top of each other.
Mum moved in with me “for a couple of weeks”, until she could face going back home but she’s still with me almost a year down the line.
Her bedroom is a mess with stuff all over the place. I can’t cope with it any longer.
DEIDRE SAYS: You shouldn’t have to.
Allowing your mother to live with you is enabling her to have your full-time support and she’s not moving on with living without your father.
Contact (0808 164 4572) which offers six weeks of free bereavement counselling and also seek help through (020 3239 1600) which offers psychological support groups, information, one-to-one in-home support service and free benefits advice.
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