How do I stop my best friend from involving me in her relationship issues?
DEAR DEIDRE: MY best friend’s relationship problems are starting to take over my life, and I don’t know how to ask her to stop involving me without causing an upset.
I’m one of the few true friends she has and trusts but our friendship is starting to get me down.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Your friend thinks of you as a confidante.
You said yourself that you are one of her only true friends and so you may be the only person she is comfortable sharing her personal problems with.
Unless you tell her, she will never know that these conversations make you uncomfortable.
Next time she brings up a topic you feel uncomfortable discussing, lightly say something like “You know I love you both – perhaps it’s best to talk to your husband.”
Encourage her to work things through with him and explain gently that as you know them both, it’s difficult to give objective advice and sometimes you feel a little caught in the middle.
If she is a true friend she will understand.