I’ve tried everything but my husband only see’s me as a mother and not a lover

Nothing works.

I have even lost weight – I’m slimmer than I was before I got pregnant – but he still doesn’t fancy me.

It’s not just our sex life that has gone off the boil – he never wants to socialise any more either.

We both work and I do all the chores, so if anyone should be stressed and tired, it’s me.

I don’t want to cheat or to split up my family, but I can’t carry on like this for much longer.

I’m a young woman and need a normal sex life.

DEIDRE SAYS:  It’s hard not to take being rejected personally. But when your partner goes off sex, it’s very rarely because they no longer find you attractive.

Losing weight or putting on sexy lingerie won’t help.

The fact your husband has also gone off socialising suggests he may be feeling generally unhappy or even depressed.