I’m fed up of keeping dad’s sordid secrets and if he doesn’t tell mum I will
DEAR DEIDRE: MY dad can’t keep it in his trousers, and since discovering he has been cheating on my mum for a second time, I’m threatening to tell her the truth.
I was so angry with him when I came home unexpectedly and caught him in bed with our neighbour.
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I confronted him and he admitted he was having an affair with someone from work.
He promised it was just a one-off. He said he and Mum were having some problems and he’d been weak and stupid.
I gave him the benefit of the doubt on that occasion — but this time I’m mad. I told him if he didn’t tell Mum, I would.
Dad says it will break her heart if she finds out and he has begged me for another chance. I don’t know what to do.
He pleaded with me not to say anything and swore he would end the affair.
He says he loves Mum and doesn’t want to lose her. However, I don’t trust him or understand why he keeps cheating.
So far, I haven’t said anything. I don’t want to devastate Mum. But if I keep this to myself again, it feels like I’m colluding with Dad.
It’s not fair.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Your father has put you in an impossible position.
Either you lie to your mother by omission, or you hurt her with the truth.
You need to explain to him the mental burden he has loaded on to you.
Give him the opportunity to talk to your mum.