I’m contemplating having a boob job so my husband fancies me again
DEAR DEIDRE: I’M contemplating having a boob job to keep my other half keen because I’m fed up with being in a sexless marriage.
My husband is 33 and I’m 31. He is my first love and we’ve been together since our teens.
In our early days we couldn’t keep our hand off each other but I’m not sure he still finds me attractive.
We used to have sex often, sometimes four or five times a day in our twenties.
But now, I’ll be lucky if we make love once a month.
When we do, it’s always me who initiates it.
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There have been times I’ve worn lingerie around the house in an effort to entice him, but he doesn’t even bat an eyelid.
I’ve also noticed he has visited porn sites on our computer and when I checked the history, it seems he likes very busty women.
I’m petite and have always been quite conscious of my 32A boobs.
I didn’t think it bothered my husband, but could this be the reason he won’t have sex with me any more?
Affection and sexual chemistry are really important to me.
I just want that feeling back with my husband so I’m saving up to get a boob job to surprise him.
I don’t want to lose what we had, but what if he still doesn’t fancy me even after I’ve put myself through cosmetic surgery?
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DEIDRE SAYS: Cosmetic surgery is not the answer.
If you want to improve on the connection with your husband, the best place to start is through open communication.
There are many reasons why people don’t engage as often in sex.
A loss of libido can be caused by stress, depression or perhaps there is some aspect of your relationship he is unhappy with.
Sometimes men can become overly reliant on porn, which can come between a couple.
The one thing I can guarantee you that won’t be the problem is the size of your breasts.
But you won’t find out unless you talk to him. So let him know you are worried.
Ask him if there is anything troubling him.
My support pack Reviving A Man’s Sex Drive might help too.
