If my partner doesn’t pull his weight with the baby I’m off
DEAR DEIDRE: AS my partner makes such little effort with our baby, I am starting to resent him.
I am 28 and he is 30. We have been together for three years but since our son arrived I’ve seen a selfish and lazy side to him.
I have tried talking to him but he doesn’t change.
The most I can hope for is that he will play with our son for 20 minutes but he soon grows bored.
He doesn’t change nappies, give our boy his bottle or help at bath time.
He just makes comments like, “Well, you wanted a baby.”
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My son is thriving but I am not sure this is the happiest home life for him.
My partner storms off in moods whenever I pull him up and I so often feel cross with him.
I am thinking of moving to my mum’s.
DEIDRE SAYS: Pregnancy and looking after a young child can be a stressful time and puts many relationships under pressure.
The early stages of being a mother can be exhausting. I’m not surprised you feel resentful.
Having children can stretch a relationship to breaking point,as both of you bring the way you were parented into the equation.
If your partner’s dad did nothing when he was young, I do wonder whether he is mimicking him.
It isn’t an excuse but it may be an explanation.
Give him time alone with the baby to help them bond and build his confidence.
