My wife and I are trying for a baby but the pressure is affecting my performance

DEAR DEIDRE: EVERY time my wife and I go to have sex, I either can’t get an erection or can’t ejaculate.

We are both desperate to start a family.

Last year my wife got pregnant after two years of trying, but a few weeks later she lost the baby.

It hit us both hard.

We have had plenty of dark days since then and worry it is never going to happen.

I am 36, she is 32 and we have been married for three years.

However, I’m pleased to say we recently decided to keep trying and downloaded every single fertility and conception app going.

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But this problem has started recently when we go to have sex. It is starting to drive a wedge between us.

It doesn’t help when we see babies everywhere. Knowing friends and family are conceiving effortlessly makes us jealous and upset.

We feel like we are running out of time.

DEIDRE SAYS: Women can usually conceive for two or three days in each cycle, so it is important to make sure you know when this is likely to be.

Also, look after your health – both of you – including diet and sleep.

Tension and anxiety are common causes of infertility and can affect your ability to get an erection too.

Take the focus off conception and try to keep your love-making fun and free of stress.

My support packs Solving Erection Problems and Want To Have A Baby? will help.

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