I’m married and soo embarrassed after a local workman caught on that I fancy him
DEAR DEIDRE: EVEN though I am happily married I felt an intense attraction to another man who was doing road repairs on my street.
I thought he felt the same way because the first time he looked at me it was quite prolonged.
I’m a 41-year-old woman and my husband’s 43. We’ve been together for 15 years.
This man had my mobile number to keep residents updated.
At first the texts were formal but when they switched to Whatsapp they softened a bit, including him sending me a message with a kiss.
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I was infatuated but wouldn’t have been unfaithful, so it was mortifying when his colleagues told him I’d asked if he was single.
He messaged back saying he wasn’t looking for a relationship – not that I was asking. He said he was still young and wanted to enjoy himself. He’s 31.
I was embarrassed and felt awkward because he was so forward. I don’t understand why I feel sad.
DEIDRE SAYS: Even people in very happy relationships find themselves developing a crush and getting tingly butterflies.
It’s normal. Perhaps this was a misunderstanding but, still, rejection hurts.
Your feelings are totally valid and it’s normal to feel embarrassed.
He made a big assumption about your intentions and being humiliated by your crush is a horrible feeling but it will subside in time.
Hold your head up when you walk out of your front door, you have nothing to feel ashamed of.
