I’m angry at my daughter for getting pregnant – I wanted her to live her life first
DEAR DEIDRE: I’M so cross with my daughter for getting pregnant at 23 because she knows how tough it was for me when I got pregnant with her at 19.
I’d always warned her to wait until she was older, wiser and settled in a good relationship before thinking about having a child.
She hasn’t listened to a word I said.
I’ve been for a scan with her, and she hasn’t decided whether or not to go through with the pregnancy.
I’m a single mum of 42. I also have a son who is 19. Their dad moved abroad years ago.
My daughter’s boyfriend is 26. I’ve met him once. She texted me to say she was pregnant. I think she was scared to tell me to my face.
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She’s got a good job managing a hairdressing salon.
She says she hasn’t decided what to do and while I know it’s her decision, I’ll be disappointed if she has a termination.
It will be difficult financially for us though.
I work in a hotel kitchen so the money isn’t great.
Her boyfriend says he’ll stand by her, but I wanted her to live her life first, not get stuck with kids, as I did.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Managing her finances with a baby is her responsibility.
In an ideal world, this child will have two loving parents who commit to him or her emotionally as well as financially.
It may feel like a struggle but many young parents make it work for them. If she has the baby, you’ll embrace the change.
It’s a worrying time for her so support her, listen to her and be there for her.
If you’re concerned that she is going to be alone, she can find help through Gingerbread (, 0808 802 0925) for single parents or carers.
