My daughters boyfriend has a bad reputation of violence against women
DEAR DEIDRE: MY daughter has been totally taken in by her boyfriend and believes everything he tells her.
I worry about his influence. I am her 74-year-old father. My daughter is 48 and her partner is 46.
They have been together for a year.
We visited them recently and throughout the day he was receiving messages from his ex-girlfriend.
I’ve heard rumours that he has a history of violence against women.
He has denied everything but tells so many lies.
He told my daughter he was going to buy her a car and take her on an exotic holiday, but nothing materialised.
He comes across as normal but there is something not right. I have caught him lying a couple of times.
I can’t persuade my daughter to leave. She says she likes him, but I am worried about her safety.
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DEIDRE SAYS: You are right to have concerns about him.
Under Clare’s Law, as the relative of someone you are worried about, you have a right to request the release of relevant information regarding this man.
To find out if he has a history of domestic violence or abuse, contact the 24-hour National Domestic Abuse Helpline, 0808 2000 247 for guidance.
In the meantime, let her know you will support her whatever she decides.
After all, she is an adult and if you force your opinion on her, it may make her more determined to stay with him
