My younger boyfriend is horrible after a drink – how do I make the break?
DEAR DEIDRE: THE sex is amazing with my much younger boyfriend but he treats me like a piece of dirt.
He’s 31 and when he’s sober he’s lovely. I’m 56 and a divorcee.
I’ll admit it, I’m lonely.
I met this guy before Brexit, when I was on holiday in Portugal.
I fell for his charms when he was working in the bar at our hotel.
We started a relationship and he came over and moved in with me and we’ve been together ever since.
He’s still doing bar work but sometimes he drinks with customers at the end of the night and then changes into somebody I don’t recognise.
He can be nasty, calls me names and belittles me. Sometimes he gets in my face and I’m scared he’s going to hit me.
He keeps threatening that he’s going back to Portugal and sometimes I wish he would, but I love him. I need to let him go.
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DEIDRE SAYS: You do. It’s lovely you are in a good relationship some of the time, but nobody deserves to feel frightened by somebody who is supposed to love you.
Alcohol is affecting his behaviour but if he doesn’t recognise there’s an issue, then this will continue to happen.
Yelling and shouting at you is abusive. You deserve better and there’s no reason why you can’t find somebody who is loving and respectful.
My support pack called Abusive Partner explains where to find emotional support.
