My relationship with my daughter has hit rock bottom after latest row

DEAR DEIDRE: My two daughters couldn’t be more different.

The youngest is loyal, thoughtful and kind, but the eldest is self obsessed and entitled.

I’m their 67-year-old mum and I’ve never particularly got on with the eldest, 34, but I didn’t expect our poor relationship to continue so long into our adult lives. 

Last month things took a real turn for the worse when I invited both daughters and their families for Sunday dinner to celebrate my birthday.

My youngest, 31, arrived with gifts, helped out and we had plenty of lovely chats.

But my eldest texted an hour before she was due to say she was too busy and wouldn’t make it.

I’m afraid I lost it and messaged her saying I was tired of her letting me down.

I then suggested we should talk to try and sort things out once and for all.

The next day she called and ran through a long list of everything that is going wrong in her life.

She knows I’ve had a bad back but never bothers to check on me or her dad who is 73.

DEIDRE SAYS: The poor relationship with your daughter clearly hurts you. 

She does sound very caught up in her own issues. She does sound like she could be depressed.

Could you suggest she goes to see her GP?

If nothing changes you may find more peace if you can accept your eldest daughter as she is.