I had sex with my best friend and now she’s ghosting me
DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN I had sex with my best friend, I thought it might be the beginning of something wonderful.
But since that night, she has ghosted me, and now I fear I’ve ruined our friendship for ever.
I’m a 39-year-old man and my best friend is 31. We have known each other for several years through work.
We’ve always been close, but strictly as friends – although I did hold a torch for her.
Last weekend, newly-single, she came round for pizza and a movie. We both had a lot to drink and somehow ended up kissing.
We went upstairs to my bedroom and had sex. It was everything I’d dreamed it would be.
She stayed the night, but since then I haven’t heard from her at all.
She’s ignoring all my messages. I’m terrified I’ve lost her.
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DEIDRE SAYS: She might regret what happened, or feel embarrassed.
Or she could be avoiding you because she is working out how she feels.
Perhaps she has realised you’ve always wanted more than friendship. Or maybe she does, but she isn’t sure how you feel.
Send her a message saying you don’t want this to come between you.
A little time apart should make things less awkward.
