I’m worried my husband won’t bond with our baby if it’s a girl
DEAR DEIDRE: ALL I care about is having a healthy baby, but my husband is desperate for a boy.
I’m pregnant with my second child and due to have the “gender reveal” scan next week.
We already have a gorgeous daughter and I’d be happy with another. But he says if it’s another girl he wants us to try for a third child.
We’ve been married for five years, and our daughter is two. I’m 32 and he’s 33.
He is so set on having a son that it’s making me anxious about the scan.
I’m worried that if it’s a girl he’ll be disappointed or even that he won’t bond with the baby.
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We always agreed to have two children. For me, that’s the perfect number, and we can’t afford more.
Now he seems to be moving the goalposts. It’s making me feel like a baby-making machine. This is really stressing me out. What should I do?
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DEIDRE SAYS: Many people imagine they want to have children of both sexes but nature has its own ideas.
You need to talk to your husband and explain how you feel.
My support pack, Looking After Your Relationship, should help.
Remind your partner that it’s the man whose sperm determines the baby’s sex.
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While he hopes for a boy, he will probably be delighted with another girl and love her, regardless.
Don’t let him push you into having a third. There’s no guarantee it would be a boy either.