I used to be a stallion in bed and now I’m a one-minute wonder
DEAR DEIDRE: I USED to be a stallion in the bedroom but now, after a seven-year dry spell, I’m a one-minute wonder.
I’m 41, my wife is 38 and we’ve been together for 14 years, with a son aged eight.
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Until last year he slept in our bed every night. We never planned for that but he’d get so distressed if he wasn’t with us.
In those seven years my wife and I hardly ever had sex.
Fortunately, he’s sleeping in his own bed again but now my wife and I are finally getting intimate, my stamina is non-existent.
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I’ve tried everything to last longer – medication, delay sprays, even imagining Boris Johnson naked – but nothing seems to work.
I make sure to satisfy my wife in other ways but I’m desperate to enjoy sex for at least five minutes like a normal man.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Since you didn’t have premature ejaculation issues before, it seems likely this has come about because the anticipation of resuming sex has proven too much.
The build-up of sexual excitement after so long without is probably making you climax quickly.
Try having sex again soon after you orgasm. You should find you last longer second time around.
Keep trying this so your confidence builds up. This will help you break the cycle of anxiety and premature ejaculation.
I am attaching my support pack Want To Last Longer, which offers more self-help techniques.