I have sex with my husband but we don’t make love
DEAR DEIDRE: MY husband and I still have sex but we don’t make love any more.
I’m 56, my husband is 61 and we’ve been married for 23 years.
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I’m not asking for rose petals on the bed and candles around the room. I just want a bit of affection.
When we were young, we used to have nights of passion. Back then, he’d care about pleasuring me.
But now there’s no romance involved. He just gets down to it without any foreplay at all.
I don’t feel loved and I don’t feel wanted. I’m just a post he ruts against.
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And it’s not only in the bedroom. When we go out he doesn’t hold hands with me and I can’t even recall the last time he told me loved me.
But I’m worried about saying anything in case that stops the very last bit of intimacy we have left.
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DEIDRE SAYS: No one should feel unloved by their partner. So be brave and tell him how you feel, saying you miss the connection you had before.
You need to take some responsibility too. Don’t just wait for his initiation of physical touch.
You can make the first move, by holding his hand in public and telling him how much you love him.
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