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WON'T TALK TO ME

My bitter mum cut me off two years ago after my dad died of cancer

DEAR DEIDRE: MUM was so bitter after losing Dad to cancer that she hasn’t spoken to me in two years.

She’s 68 and I’m her 46-year-old daughter.

She won't talk to me even though I have reached out several times
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She won't talk to me even though I have reached out several times

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Dad died four years ago. Some people say grief loses its sting over time but for Mum it has got worse.

She started to resent the fact I still have a husband.

She even tried to make me choose between them. I told her she wasn’t being fair.

After all, we had been married for 20 years and have three kids together.

Since then she’s cut me off. I keep trying to get back in contact.

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I send her birthday cards and Mother’s Day flowers. But it does nothing.

I just wish she would talk to me.

DEIDRE SAYS: It is to be admired that you are so sympathetic and patient with your mum.

But she needs help you cannot give her.

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Perhaps talk to her GP about her change in character and suggest she sees a counsellor.

And contact StandAlone () which supports those estranged from their family.

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