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My boyfriend is so cold in text messages that I worry he doesn’t care

DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend is warm in real life yet so cold by text – he doesn’t even send kisses.

I’m 27 and he is 31. We have been together for five months.

He does not show affection in his business-like messages to me
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He does not show affection in his business-like messages to me

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We can’t keep our hands off each other and he’s full of romantic gestures. So why is it such a different story by text?

I’m starting to worry he doesn’t really care for me.

My friends agree it is strange. Their partners always send kisses by text.

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Soon I will start my three-month secondment abroad.

I’m scared our relationship will fall apart with his lack of text affection.

DEIDRE SAYS: Many people tend to be more businesslike in messages.

They simply don’t see the need to shower every text with kisses.

Ask your boyfriend why his messages aren’t as warm as he is in real life and explain you would love it if he could add a kiss or two at the end.

Try not to read too much into this.

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