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While I do the school run and the shopping, my wife’s been sleeping around

DEAR DEIDRE: WHILE I do the school run and the shopping, my wife has been sleeping with her lover.

I am a man of 46, she is 43 and we have three kids.

She has been having an affair while I do the shopping
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She has been having an affair while I do the shopping

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During our 15-year marriage, we have had our ups and downs but have never been apart for longer than five months.

So when she announced she wanted space three months ago I didn’t worry.

I went to live at my parents’ house but carried on picking the kids up for school before going to my full-time job.

I even started doing her shopping to get back into her good books.

One morning I saw a man hurrying out of our house.

I confronted my wife, who admitted they had been having an affair. Then she said she wanted a divorce.

She even had the cheek to give me this week’s shopping list. She clearly still expects me to drive the kids and run after her.

I’m being taken for a mug.

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DEIDRE SAYS: So stop doing your ex’s shopping but keep up all contact with your children.

Driving them around is a great way to stay in their lives. Children need continuity and stability.

It sounds as if you still want to get back with your wife so it would be worth seeing if you could work things out.

Would you both talk to a counsellor at Relate ()?

If she is adamant your marriage is over, you will have to accept that.

My support pack When Parents Fall Out will help.

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