THANK YOU

You helped me move on from my colleague and get my career back on track

DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN I fell for my colleague, my emotions were a mess.

She liked me too, but she was married so I knew we couldn’t be together.

No issue is too small, too large or too embarrassing. Read our personal replies here.

I am 40 and a single man, while she is 42.

We both felt this insane chemistry, which made it hard to concentrate.

After a work drink, we ended up kissing, but she stopped it going further.

I wrote to you because I was starting to underperform at work as a result. All I could think about was being with her.

You gently told me I needed to be strong and distance myself from her, or I would end up wrecking my career.

You advised that I shouldn’t socialise with her outside work and suggested ways I could meet someone else who was available.

I took your guidance on board. Working from home helped, and time apart made my feelings less intense.

I have since met a few women online and have been on some dates.

Every problem gets a personal reply, usually within 24 hours weekdays.

You can also send a private message on the Facebook page.

Although I do still have feelings for my colleague, I am much less confused and can do my job properly.

We have agreed to be friends. Thank you, Deidre.

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