My friend called my other mate a thief and wants me to stop talking to her
DEAR DEIDRE: MY mate is accusing a mutual friend of stealing from her, and now she wants me to stop talking to her.
Surely it’s unreasonable for her to expect me to end my friendship with her too?
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We’re all 19-year-old women and have been friends since we were five.
Last month, my friend had a house party to celebrate the end of our mock exams.
The next day, she discovered her Tiffany necklace was missing. I don’t know why, but she instantly blamed our friend.
She has refused to talk to her since, and now she’s asking me to cut all contact with her too.
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If I don’t, she has said she may have to reconsider our own friendship.
I think she’s being really unfair, particularly as we have no proof that this friend did it.
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DEIDRE SAYS: It’s not fair for your friend to ask you to end a 14-year friendship just on her say so.
Explain that you understand why she’s upset, but she can’t dictate who you’re friends with.
Remind her that it’s possible for you to be friends with both of them.
My support pack Standing Up For Yourself will help.
If she continues to threaten to cut you off, you will have to consider if she’s really the sort of friend you want anyway.