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My partner isn’t allowed to see his kids because I’m a ‘violent drunk’

I WAS accused of being a violent drunk and now my partner has been denied access to his ten-year-old daughter by his ex.

It’s all lies – and particularly hurtful as I was in an abusive relationship before. That boyfriend hit, kicked and threatened me.

My partner is distraught but we can't find out who said this about me
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My partner is distraught but we can't find out who said this about me

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I’m a woman of 35 and my partner is 38. I have two boys, aged ten and eight.

When my partner’s daughter has been with us, I treat her as my own.

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There is no abuse in my relationship now and we live in a calm, loving home.

My partner is distraught but we can’t find out who has said this about me. We are worried about them going to social services about me.

DEIDRE SAYS:  Well done getting out of your abusive relationship. It would have been very damaging for your children.

If you ever reported the abuse to the police, you will have evidence to substantiate your case.

It is vital your partner maintains contact in other ways, using FaceTime, Skype, texting or the phone.

Find the best help to get your partner back in regular contact with his daughter by contacting Coram Children’s Legal Centre () for free legal advice on English law and policy affecting children and families.

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