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My husband’s saved pictures of our female friends on our computer

DEAR DEIDRE: I FOUND a folder on our computer containing photos of female family members and friends my husband had created.

They weren’t naughty, just pictures from Facebook or Instagram.

I wouldn’t mind if it was pics of celebrities, but these people are female friends and family
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I wouldn’t mind if it was pics of celebrities, but these people are female friends and family

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I didn’t know what to make of it, so asked my husband.

He said: “I just like their clothing.” I found that odd.

He’s 42 and I’m 40.

I’m no prude. I wouldn’t mind if it was sexy pics of celebrities. But these people are female friends and family.

He said he’d delete the pictures but now he has a file I can’t access.

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At first I thought he was being weird. Now it’s dawned on me he probably fancies them.

I can’t confide in anyone about this.

DEIDRE SAYS: It does look that way but you need another discussion.

Find a quiet moment to tell him his catalogue of pictures is making you question your marriage.

If he has nothing to hide, why block access on the computer now? Ask how he would react if you had done the same.

If he can’t give you a plausible explanation, you may want to get couple counselling. My support pack on this explains how it can help and where to look.

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