I haven’t had sex with my husband since he cheated on me 10 years ago
DEAR DEIDRE: SINCE he cheated on me ten years ago, I haven’t fancied my husband. But he’s always asking for sex.
I’ve done so much for him over the years, including taking on his two young boys after his wife left him.
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His sons mean the world to me.
I am 42 and my husband is 45. I took him back when I found out he had cheated because I was worried for the kids.
If they had not been there, I’d have left him for good.
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He still badgers me for sex, asking me to touch his private parts and grabbing my boobs or my bum when I move past.
He doesn’t get it that those days are over.
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DEIDRE SAYS: You have held this grudge for a long time.
He should not have cheated, of course, but I am wondering what you now get from this relationship.
You say you no longer fancy him – but do you still love him?
If you do, this is a marriage worth fighting for.
Find a quiet moment to tell him you still feel unhappy about what happened and you need to see a trained counsellor.
My support pack called Counselling will show where to find the right kind of professional help.