How do I tell my friend that I don’t want to hear about her affair?
DEAR DEIDRE: ONE of my oldest friends is having an affair and I’m feeling increasingly uncomfortable with the intimate details she shares with me.
We have known each other for over 20 years and work for a big insurance broker.
She is 53 and I’m 51. Our husbands get on well and we’ve always gone out as a foursome.
Ten years ago, I discovered she was having an affair with another colleague but I decided it was none of my business so we carried on as before.
But around five years ago she started to tell me how hot this colleague was in bed, divulging very intimate details.
She also admitted her husband didn’t satisfy her sexually, which has made it even more awkward.
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But I’m really struggling now as my husband has been diagnosed with an aggressive skin cancer.
I don’t want to hear about her infidelity when I might lose my husband, who I love very much. How can I handle this?
DEIDRE SAYS: I am sure your friend’s affair is the last thing you want to hear about right now.
You can calmly let your friend know you are finding it hard dealing with your husband’s illness and are scared of losing him.
If she starts talking about her affair, quickly change the subject or even walk away uninterested. She will soon get the message, and hopefully understand.