My partner and I spank each other but I’m worried we’re going too far

DEAR DEIDRE: IS slapping each other in the bedroom a bit weird?

My partner and I have been together for three years. She is 29, I am a guy of 31.

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When we got together, she told me she didn’t like being spanked.

I’d enjoyed that with my ex but kept quiet so she didn’t feel any pressure to do it.

But one night I got a bit swept up in the moment and slapped her bum.

I apologised later but she said she had enjoyed it – to her own surprise.

Now we can’t have sex without spanking each other first – with hands or other objects.

DEIDRE SAYS: Quite a few erogenous zones are often overlooked – the small of the back and the buttocks being two.

So it’s no surprise that focusing on these areas turns you both on.

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