My ex booty-called me in secret after he remarried his former wife
DEAR DEIDRE: MY ex told me he was gagging for sex and wanted to meet up.
I jumped at the chance, hoping we might get back together. But he hadn’t told me he had remarried his former wife.
I am 42 and he is 43. We were both divorced and met online. We were together for six years and he ended it two years ago. He never really said why.
We didn’t have children together but he has two sons who are more or less grown-up. After we split, we would send the occasional text asking after one another. But that petered out.
Then one day last year I drove through the town where he lived and it made me think of him. I texted him when I got home and asked how he was. He said he was pleased to hear from me and suggested I go over for a catch up the next day.
We sat and had a coffee and talked about old times. I blurted out that I still loved him but he said he didn’t want a relationship. I left but texted him on his birthday saying I’d treat him to lunch. He turned me down, telling me to move on.
Then in the summer, he texted me out of the blue asking if I would meet him as he had a sex issue. I assumed he just wanted to talk it through with someone he felt comfortable around.
He said he was gagging for sex but was struggling to get an erection. He asked me to wear a sexy short skirt and heels. I made an effort and we met. He had no problems and was able to get an erection with me. He said it was the best sex he’d had since we broke up.
We parted on good terms. I was hopeful that might be the start of us getting back together and felt sad when he didn’t contact me again, but life carried on. Last week I was on Facebook and feeling a bit bored, so I ended up going through his sons’ pages on the site.
I was shocked when I saw photos of the wife my ex had cheated on with me, wearing a wedding dress and standing next to my former partner. It turned out he had sold his house and had married her again. I would never have agreed to meet him if I had known. I am devastated.
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