My girlfriend says she’s not with me for sex so it doesn’t interest her
DEAR DEIDRE: IF I suggest we have a bit of foreplay, my girlfriend shuts me down. She says she’s not with me for sex so it doesn’t interest her.
My girlfriend is 26 and I’m 28.
I have never been with anyone like her before.
She’s lovely and funny and witty but, when I talk to her about it, she says, “Love isn’t all about sex you know.”
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She only seems to want sex with me when she has been drinking. But even then, it is straight intercourse.
We have talked about marriage and children but I don’t see this is possible if we cannot enjoy sex together.
DEIDRE SAYS: If she is interested in sex when her inhibitions are lowered by alcohol, then it suggests that she involuntarily shuts down desire.
Tell her that together you are missing out on what could be a very special and enjoyable part of your relationship.
My e-leaflet Too Inhibited In Bed? can help.
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