I want to make a move on my crush but I’m scared I’ll ruin our friendship
DEAR DEIDRE: I AM falling for a woman but holding off making a move in case I lose her as a friend.
I am 49 and divorced, she is 28. We met when she did work experience with my company while at uni.
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When she graduated she landed a position on the sales team and I was her mentor. She eventually left for a better job and I heard she married her boyfriend.
I didn’t hear from her until she sent me an email a few months ago saying she was divorced. We met for lunch when lockdown eased.
Our friendship is strong and I sense she likes me but worry that as an older guy and mentor, she might have put me on a pedestal. I keep fit and people say I don’t look my age but I am not 30 any longer either.
DEIDRE SAYS: Try not to put up obstacles in your head. You can say you would be keen on being more than friends if she is – and you will know from her reaction if you are on the same page.
Even if she is not interested in romance, if you handle it sensitively she will be flattered and it will not alter your friendship.
My e-leaflet Age Gaps – Do They Matter? explains the pressures to be aware of – and how best to navigate them.
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