My ex gets blind-drunk and verbally abuses our teenage son
DEAR DEIDRE: MY son’s mother regularly gets blind-drunk and verbally abuses him.
We split up ten years ago. I’d cheated on her and she wouldn’t let me see my son for years, but he got in touch with me when he was old enough and we get on great.
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When his mum has a go at him, he gives as good as he gets. Then she threatens to throw him out.
It’s a bad scene and I’d have him to live with me but I’m a long-distance driver and away a lot.
I’m 43 and he’s 17 now but I don’t think he’d cope well on his own for days at a time.
I don’t know how best to help him.
DEIDRE SAYS: It will make a massive difference to how he survives all this that he knows you are there for him. Try to have him to stay very regularly when you are home and keep in touch while you are away.
His school should be aware of the problems he faces, so liaise with them – with his knowledge. A parent with an alcohol problem can ruin a young person’s self-esteem.
Tell him he can get confidential support at the National Association for Children of Alcoholics (, 0800 358 3456).
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