I can’t get an erection and satisfy my wife since I almost died from a brain blood clot
DEAR DEIDRE: I ALMOST died when I had a blood clot on the brain.
I know I should be grateful to be alive but I no longer feel like a man.
I’m on lots of medication and I can’t please my wife because I can no longer get an erection.
My wife says it doesn’t matter. I’m 55 and she is 51.
We have sex toys, we kiss and cuddle and enjoy foreplay, but I can’t make love to her like before and I feel miserable.
What can I do to improve things?
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DEIDRE SAYS: Please try to listen to your wife when she says it doesn’t matter.
You are sharing intimacy in other ways and intercourse is often not as important to women as it is to men, especially as they get a bit older.
What matters to your wife is that you’re alive.
But it is worth asking your doctor whether you could change your medication safely to see if that makes a difference.
My e-leaflet on Erection Problems explains self-help too.