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My wife wants to start a family but she doesn’t know I’ve been taking to men on gay chatrooms

DEAR DEIDRE I’M having hot chats with a gay man and my wife has no idea.

We have been married for just under a year and I love my wife.

 My wife doesn't know I've been secretly taking to men on gay chatrooms
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My wife doesn't know I've been secretly taking to men on gay chatroomsCredit: Alamy

But when she was away for a week with her mum, I went on a dating site and started chatting to men. One man especially really got to me. He’s 25 and I’m 30.

He gets me all worked up telling me what he’d like to do to me. Deep down, I know I’ve fallen for him.

My wife is 28 and has no idea about all this. She wants to start a family soon but I have all these gay feelings now.

Am I cheating on her?

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DEIDRE SAYS: Yes – and you owe her some honesty.

Perhaps you unconsciously suppressed gay feelings before you married, but the thought of starting a family now is making you realise you must face up to the truth of your sexuality.

This will not be easy for either of you. My e-leaflet Gay Resources will help.


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