My wife makes me feel like a sex pest at the slightest physical touch

DEAR DEIDRE: MY wife makes me feel like a sex pest.

If I touch her leg or put my hand in her pyjamas, she shoots me down.

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I end up feeling like I’m molesting her and only after one thing.

We are both 46, married 20 years and I love her very much but our sex life is one- dimensional. It’s always up to me to make a first move.

Sex is always in the same positions, with me doing all the work, and it lasts no more than ten minutes.

I love oral sex, but she won’t do it or receive it and thinks it is revolting.

Sex toys are a no-go. I bought her sexy lingerie and she wore it once.

Should I be happy with sex once every few weeks? I masturbate regularly with porn and picture me and my wife in such scenes – I wish!

DEIDRE SAYS: Most couples reach a compromise in their sex lives.

The porn videos you watch are nearly all about whipping up male responses, not meeting women’s sexual needs.

Instead of focusing on what you want, how about asking what she’d like?

For example, does she regularly reach orgasm? If not, no wonder she’s not that enthusiastic about sex.

Suggest you explore together what would work for her – which may well not be intercourse.

My e-leaflet on Orgasm For Women explains more.

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